(Psssst! If you’re “late” to the challenge and just getting started, that’s OK too! Just go at your own pace!  Start with this blog post and scroll to the bottom, and make sure you have what you need to complete the challenge and fill out the 10 questions you need to fill out before you get started.  Then you can take it day by day at your own pace!)


Hi Everyone!  I hope you’ve had a great weekend so far!  I really appreciate you checking out today’s Love Your Body Challenge Post.

Yesterday’s reason to love your body was:

“Because it surprises me regularly.”

I talked about how fun and exciting it is when our body really pulls through for us when we least expect it.  Maybe you finished something physically exerting that you weren’t sure you could finish like a race or a climb.  Maybe you pulled yourself up over the chin-up bar when you didn’t know you could.  Maybe you beat cancer or triumphed over a major medical issue.

Whatever you story is, when your body surprises you  by doing something extraordinary, it deserves recognition and love.  Here are some of your stories:

“I’ve been on an allergy elimination diet and reintroduction protocol since 3 February – my body surprised me at how well it handled eliminating dairy, grains, soy, legumes, sugar, alcohol, etc and has surprised me with its quick recovery after reactions to different groups.  After just a few days of clean eating, and I feel better and stronger. My body is helping figure out how best to support and nourish it and that blows me away.” – Beth

“I love this reason and mantra today. I can relate in so many ways. My body has surprised me in so many different ways, but the one that jumps out at me when thinking of all the ways today is how it has reached the best health I’ve ever been in recently. Let me explain:

For so many years (after my eating disorder) I tried SO HARD to put on weight, to gain muscle, and reach the best health I could be in. I’d stress over food (constantly forcing myself to eat more and more), make sure I wasn’t over exercising, and stress about EVERYTHING just so I could gain weight.

Over the past few months I decided to just stop “trying” so hard and just live. Just live to be healthy, without the big goal of gaining weight. And you know what? I’m finally the heaviest I’ve ever been and feel absolutely amazing. I am finally the HEALTHY I have always wanted to be WITHOUT stressing about it. I am so surprised and don’t know how it happened, but that is just one of the many reasons my body has surprised me and I love it.” – Meg

Love it!  Now onto Day 20!

Reason #20 To Love Your Body

20. Because it’s sexy.

You knew this one was coming right?  We’ve talked about your body being beautiful, experiencing pleasure, and looking amazing in <insert your favorite outfit here>.

Now it’s time to appreciate that our bodies are incredibly sexy, whatever that means/looks like to you.

We will each have a different definition of sexy, whether it is feeling like our significant other is attracted to us, or it means that we finally feel comfortable in our own skin, or that we feel powerful and in control of our lives.  There’s no right or wrong way answers here.  Truly, feeling sexy comes in lots of forms.

So what if you don’t feel sexy? Is this something you can change?

I think that often times our negative body image, self-loathing, and shame that we feel gets in the way of us feeling sexy.  We either can’t believe that anyone would find us sexy or we don’t believe we deserve to feel that way.

Just like with anything else we want to improve, practice is imperative.  Just as you are in the middle of this challenge and spending time every day working on having more love for you body, you should also put time, effort, and practice into feeling sexy.  This involves figuring out your own personal definition of sexy and spending time on activities that put you in that head space, and once you’re there, practice staying there.

This mantra and action step would be a good place to start.

Mantra:  “My body feels sexiest when I <insert here>.”

Repeat this (to yourself or out loud) 10 times right now,  10 times during your action step, and 10 times before bed.

Action step:  Take a  few minutes to write down scenarios when you have felt really sexy, and try to find the common denominator.  Was it alone time with your spouse? Was it a particular outfit you were wearing? Was it doing what you’re most passionate about? Figure out the common denominator and make plans to spend more time participating in activities with that common denominator.

That’s it for now.  Have a great rest of your day and see you tomorrow!


6 Responses to Love Your Body Challenge – Day 20

  1. Hey Molly! Thank you so much for sharing my reason yesterday <3 that means a lot to me! <3

    I feel sexiest when my fiancé can't keep his eyes off of me, when I wear my gym shorts and notice I ACTUALLY HAVE A BUTT NOW, look in the mirror and notice how beautiful my eyes are, and when I go without judging myself. If I can go without judging myself/negative thoughts – I always feel sexy!!!!!

  2. Joanne says:

    My body feels sexiest when I allow it too. I find I spend a lot of time hiding my sexiness from others, even from my husband. This is due to an incident that happened years before I met him. I have spent decades hiding my best assets and features. I wear old baggy clothes so no one will see the beauty buried deep within me that was shattered by another. But even with that said I feel sexy when I exercise or when I hug my husband . I guess I feel sexy when I can be the best me I can. I know I am sexy even though I hide it well

  3. Trina says:

    My body feels sexiest When I put on lotion and wander around the house. Lotion or body oils is the one thing I always do to take care of myself. No matter how limited I get by my illnesses I can at least put a little lotion on my hands. It’s a treat for me to feel how smooth and healthy my skin is because of my lotion regiment. It’s a treat for my partner too when I have one.

  4. Giselle says:

    Well, must admit that I did not expect this one, but it makes sense.
    For me confidence is sexy, so is being strong, having attitude & have the guts to follow what you believe it’s right & helps you get to your dreams, even in those times when everybody is looking the other way & doesn’t want to take what you’re standing for just because it is not what most are supporting. All those things, for me, are sexy & make me feel sexy, not matter if I feel vulnerable for a couple of seconds, it ends up as soon as I take action.
    I’ve realized about that because I used to be (well, I’m still that way but try to be bold & brave) the kind that stays in silence, watch everything & says nothing even when I’m not agreed with what I’m doing. Last time I felt sexy was when I caught a couple of eyes on me when I was performing my workout & them watching them smiling at me, and after that I had to stand in front of a guy and look into his eyes for a looooooong time, it was so scary for me, but I breathe deep & could do it.
    In both situations I felt so vulnerable, but confront my fears & ended with a great feeling.

  5. Beth says:

    Thanks for highlighting me in today’s recap…..it was the first time I posted (I didn’t feel like my reasons had been good enough previously – I realized yesterday how goofy that thinking was). I am so grateful for this whole experience because it’s made me view myself and not just my body differently. I feel sexiest when I wear heels (I’m 5′ 1″) especially at work because I carry myself with more respect and therefore get treated with more respect. I can’t thank you enough for this challenge – it really is changing my life!

  6. Heather says:

    It might sound odd, but I feel sexy when I deadlift. There’s something so empowering about lifting heavy iron off the ground – all on my own – that makes me feel more feminine and sexy than anything else. My husband looks at me a certain way, and that makes me feel appreciated and loved, but it doesn’t make me feel sexy. Feeling strong and confident does that every time.

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